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New Here... Hi All :) [23 Jun 2015|02:34am]

Name: Alexandra
Status: in the process of filing for divorce
Age: 35
Location: Dallas, TX
Children: Emily, 2 months
Sahm/wohm/wahm: stay at home (going back to college in the Fall)

Hey guys, just wanted to introduce myself. I have a two-month-old daughter named Emily (the little firecracker you see in my profile pic) and a worthless excuse of a husband who I'm currently working on divorcing. We've been together for six years (married for one and a half) and we had always talked about having a family. However, when that idea became a reality I quickly found out that he was not actually willing/capable of doing anything more than talking about it. He never went to appointments, never went to classes, wasn't there for her birth and hasn't come to see me or her since. He's quick to argue his "right" to her but has not as of yet taken any of the responsibility. I've blocked his phones, FB account and email, but he does know where I live. He sent a letter claiming he'll do "anything" to prove himself, but apparently that doesn't include driving half an hour to my house. He did send two checks, though, which he seemed to think would be satisfactory. Father of the year.

So anyway, I'm going it alone (for the time being), although I'm fairly sure that staying with my husband wouldn't change that fact. I just want to keep him from making sure my daughter ends up marrying a man just like him because that would kill me, and I would kill him. I'm living with my parents right now, which helps a lot, with both paying for and caring for Emily (I'm not currently working because I'm finishing up college and raising a baby, so I have no money whatsoever).

I suppose the thing that has been the hardest so far is simply the loneliness. Pretty much all my friends live far away, so I really don't talk to anyone other than my parents except online. It's not like my husband and I have had a meaningful conversation in a long ass time, but even the arguing was sort of... something. Not the most pleasant something, but communication nonetheless.

I guess that's all for now. I'm looking forward to getting to know you all. Hope everyone's having a good morning/day/evening/night. Cheers :)
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[07 Apr 2013|10:07pm]

Name: Juniper
Status: Widow
Age: 30
Location: New York - currently in Germany
Children: Carlotta 7yo, Clementine 6yo, Lily & Luna, 2yo twins
Sahm/wohm/wahm: work at home. I work as translator.
Hobbies: being outside with the girls, read, dance, write, blog.

About me:
First of all, I wont post pics of my kids. I dont mind if you do, but I wont. I will write about
Daily life, parenthood, being single, the joy of being a stepmom... I can be funny, or bitter.
Im sarcastic, Im open and honest. Over all Im a dreamer.
I would love to meet other mothers, make more contact to other parents, single, married and everything
In between.

Thanks for having me :)
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[22 Dec 2012|09:32am]

[ mood | chipper ]

Just got back in to LJ after so many years of being away.
Don't have too much up right now, but give me a few days and it will be all up and going. Wow..Been gone for so long and there is a lot of new things on Lj!

Looking for new LJ friends.

I'm a single mother to a baby boy! Well he is five but he will always be my baby boy! His dad. *I don't know if I could even now if I should call him that.* Has never seen him nor does he want too! So he is not in the picture. But I'm doing a great job! Got alot of help from Friends and family.

He is in Pre-school and loves it!
He is very smart for his young age and wants to be a doctor. Sine he was 3 he has been in the Doctors and first aid. He knows, well almost know all the bones in the human hands..I don't even know one! Well wait. He wants to be a doctors and the red Power Ranger when he grows up. haha

A little more about me. I work front desk at a motel and its been crazy the last few nights. I read... A LOT.
I love the show Once Upon A time on ABC.

I do sew in my free time and have a crazy life!

well that all for now, If you want to add me feel free to do!

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Space question [19 May 2012|11:30pm]

[ mood | curious ]

Hi there folks,

I've recently split with my bf, and am looking for a place for myself. I keep wondering about what kind of space I should look into for myself. It'll be me, my kitty, and my baby (When he or she is born later in the fall.)

I want to stay close to campus (To make life easy, I'm a college student also in all of this :P ), but the town has a somewhat limited option for housing that would be in a good price range for me. I've seen some efficency apartments and one bedroom apartments though that are within a decent price range, with obviously the efficeny being the cheapest of the two.
I figure a one bedroom apartment should be fine for me and the baby, but would a efficency apartment be complete madness to go for? I'd be living there for two years before I graduate (and also move home/to wherever I go to grad school), so my baby would be a little over 2 by the time I graduate.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated! Being my first child, I'm a bit unsure how much I need space wise in these first few years, I figured other moms would have the best advice :)

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Feeling dumb! [25 Jan 2012|11:39pm]
I have a 15 month old son. He is beautiful and perfect. Lately I've been...gah! I don't know how to explain it. I can't even look at his baby(newborn)pictures without feeling an unbelievable tug at my heart(or my uterus)I feel as if I need another child. I feel insane! I know I shouldn't want another child with one so young and being in my situation(it's not a good situation)but god damnit if I don't want to get pregnant...yesterday! It's so odd. How do I fix this nonsense?
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Hi...I'm new. Just wanted to introduce myself [02 Mar 2011|02:59pm]

Name: Angela
Location: North Bend (but like traveling to Bellevue/Renton/eastside)
Age and Status: 29, single (single parent)
How many children and their ages: 1 girl, age 11 months
Occupation: At home mom currently looking for a job.
Favorite thing to do with your family in Washington: Exploring new trails (depending on weather), exploring, window shopping, and seeing new things around here.

Hi, I'm a single parent of an 11 month old daughter who is well behaved, but of course, very active and we need socializing. I'd love to have her meet kids close to her age to play with in a playgroup or meet somewhere like Bell Square play area or Kid's Quest or a safe place for them to play. I'm a chef/baker by trade and looking for work, but in the meantime, we're bored at home and on our own all the time, so if you're interested in the same kind of thing for your kids and yourself, let's chat!
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Recommendations on a video baby monitor? [11 Feb 2011|12:58am]

I am due with my first child in a couple weeks and i'm looking into getting a video baby monitor and am looking for suggestions. I saw that this Motorola Digital Video Baby Monitor with Room Temperature Thermometer is on sale today at Amazon for $99.99 (down from $199.99). It seems to have good reviews, and all the features i'm looking for. I was just wondering if anyone has used this model before, or if you have another model to recommend to me? thanks!
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trying to reach out [21 Nov 2010|01:20am]

Do any of you live in Maryland?

I'm 26, and 20 weeks pregnant with my first child. I'm just looking for some fellow single women dealing with pregnancy/motherhood that live in the same state as me to befriend.

Doing this alone is driving me crazy.
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Free Amazon Prime for parents [09 Sep 2010|12:49am]

Just thought i'd give fellow parents a heads up on this. Amazon is giving a free 3 month trial to all parents right now: Amazon Mom- free Amazon Prime trial

It's called Amazon Mom but it's aimed at anyone who takes care of a child. For those unfamiliar with Amazon Prime, it is a service that usually costs $79 a year that gives you free 2 day shipping and $3.99 overnight shipping. I've found it so useful at times when i'm almost out of diapers and don't think i'll have time to get to the grocery store.
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За кого ты выйдешь замуж? [07 Jul 2010|01:08pm]
За кого ты выйдешь замуж?
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Total Ovulation Control [21 Mar 2010|03:26pm]
"Total Ovulation Control" - it is the program for pocket and personal computers which is intended for forecasting dates with low and high degrees of probability of approach of pregnancy, days of the beginning menstruation, presumable date of childbirth, dates of conception and a predicted sex of the future child. Results of the forecast can be used for planning conception of the child or, on the contrary, for prevention of approach of undesirable pregnancy. The calendar can be used also for more effective reception contraceptive.

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Free baby formula! [15 Jan 2010|11:33am]


Just wanted to give everyone a head-up, there is a 800 number to call for request a free sample of store brand formula for babies here.  :o)

Press #3 and you will be connected to a rep.  Just say you are calling to request a sample.  They have a milk-based sample available to send to you (Parents Choice) OR they can send you a coupon to use at a local store near you.  I asked for Target and was told I would be sent a coupon for the Up and Up brand. 

***The rep also told me to mark this date on my calendar and to call back next month to request another coupon.  She said you can do this once a month, every month!!!

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Any Swaggers out there? [13 Jan 2010|11:47am]

Just wondering if anyone is in on the Swagbucks out there?  If so, maybe we can help each other out with the bonus codes during the week?  Please email me if you are and we'll work out a system!

If not, and you're curious what it's about, here goes :o)  Swagbucks is a search engine that rewards you in the form of Swagbucks (points that can be traded in for prizes.) You can chose from a variety of prizes, including gift cards. The most poopular is a $5 Amazon.com gift card which you can redeem for 45 Swagbucks.  (It usually takes 2-3 weeks to collect 45 Swagbucks). 

You get 3 Swagbucks for joining and can win anywhere from 2 – 5 a day if you search until you win in the morning and in the evening.  I usually win within a few searches. You can add more to your account by keeping a lookout for Swagcodes a few times a week.  (I always notify you of them on my blog when they are available)

You can go here to join. If you refer someone to Swagbucks, when they win by searching, you win the same amount! I think it's a great way to earn a little extra at something that you do every time you're online anyway.  I still prefer Google as my main search engine, but I just try to remember to do a couple searches a day over there to earn the points. 

I spent all my points on Christmas presents this year (boy did that really help out!!!), so I'm back to starting all over again for Christmas this year :o)  I try not to spend them during the year because I like to see them rack up.  I was actually able to buy my father in law a Kindle last year from all the Swagbucks I saved!

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Getting free prints of your digital pics [29 Nov 2009|09:23am]


I take a ton of digital pics and always wait til I find really good free print deals to print them! This one is here just in time for Xmas :o) Get 50 Free Prints plus 50 more for only a penny each (for New Customers) Valid 11/27/09-11/30/09.

Shipping ends up being about $6 for 100 prints - but still, that's a really great deal! I'm always really happy with the quality of the prints I get from Snapfish and I find I save a lot of money by only ordering when they have these freebie deals.

The deal is only for new customers though so just make sure you use a different email address if you already have an account with them :o)

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Questioning regarding housing for single mom... [02 Sep 2009|06:25pm]

Hello! I'm not sure if this is the right place or not, but  I would like to find out some information for my friend, since she has been unable to really find any on her own. We live in Washington State. She is a (somewhat) single mother of an almost 2 year old. I say somewhat because she is currently  living with the father of the child, but is wanting to leave because they are constantly getting into arguments, and she doesn't want her daughter to be brought up in that environment until they can resolve their issues through therapy. 

The situation for the last year and a half has been that my friend has been a stay at home mom while the boyfriend has been the provider financially. She currently has a very part-time job.

My question is: does anyone know what options she would have regarding housing assistance if she wanted to leave with the child? She has called DSHS and has received no help or information because she is not being physically abused, but I think it is taking a toll on her mentally with all of the arguing. She is extremely unhappy with the situation and feels completely helpless because she doesn't have much financially...I really want to help her out, but this is a first for both of us. 

Any information would be GREATLY APPRECIATED!
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Hi! Shout out to all Queer/Queer Friendly Moms in Philly! [29 Jul 2009|05:46am]

[ mood | chipper ]

I just started a community for Queer and Queer Friendly Moms in the Philadelphia area! I would love to have some more members come on over to visit. I will be planning some meet ups in the near future, so stop by and say hello!

Philadelphia Queer/Queer Friendly Moms

Look forward to seeing you there!


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does anyone live at home with parents? [26 Jul 2009|08:58pm]

So I am 34 weeks and I lost my mucus plug today. I still live at home with my parents (not really by choice, just for financial reasons). A lot of single moms that I know loved that they lived at home. They loved the support their parents gave them and having someone around to help. I am the EXACT opposite. I've always been very private. I didn't tell my mom I had gotten my first period when I was younger until like 2 days after the fact. I didn't even want to tell my mom I lost my mucus plug today!

I ended up going to the hospital at the advice of my doctor, just to make sure everything was ok, and it was. I just happened to get really mad because when I came home my dad got on the phone with my older sister and let her know pretty much EVERY detail that he knows about the whole thing. It really irritated me. This is why I don't like to share information with my parents because they cling on to everything and then share the information with everyone. They don't know my baby's father very well and every single time I share any minute detail about him they use that to make judgments about him and like I said before- CLING- to that tiny piece of information. I know that they are just excited and trying to be supportive, but I honestly do not know how I am going to handle this. The baby isn't even here yet and I'm going insane.  I have no privacy at all, I have no say whatsoever about how the baby's room is going to be set up, and honestly I'm feeling DEPRESSED at this point. I know that I wouldn't feel this way if I had my own space again, my own piece of mind. I just can't afford it. And I already know that things are going to get worse when I have the baby. My dad is a school teacher, so he'll be going back to school around the time I'm due. So he's gonna be constantly complaining about being kept up all night by the crying baby. And then my neurotic mother is gonna be insisting that she's "doing all the work" and that it's "not fair" to her and that she "just wants to die someimes" (she normally goes through this routine like once a week after something minor like the cats throwing up or having too many dishes to wash) when it's my every intention to take care of my kid 24/7 (but of course she won't see it that way). What should I do?

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shit or get off the pot [22 Jul 2009|09:35pm]

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years on and off, mostly on though. We lived together for a year and a half in KY. Now we're both in Michigan, I'm living with my parents and he's living with relatives. I'm due with my first child at like the beginning of September. When we first moved in together in KY things were great. He was working full time and paying the bills that we agreed he'd pay. Then he lost his job and like couldn't hold on to another one for dear life. So basically for a year I was the one working and trying to pay all the bills while he kinda just did his own thing. he blamed it on that he didn't like the new apartment we were in, and when he did get money (like his stimulus check or his tax refund) he did pay the rent but that was about it. To make things worse both him and I lost our driver's licenses at the same time so it really made it difficult for either one of us to bring in enough money to pay for anything (we lived in the country, and it's hard to find a ride to work when gas is $4 a gallon!)

We've been back in Michigan since December (so the entire time I've been pregnant) due to the fact that we had been living with his sisters for two months in KY and just couldn't manage to save up for another apartment (we both did some really stupid things and had a lot of like tickets and court costs to pay off which didn't help with saving). I've been working two jobs pretty much the whole time I've been in Michigan. I mean at 33 weeks I'm still working about 25 to 30 hours a week. He has not had a job since we've been here. His excuse is that basically he's floating from relative to relative and he can't concentrate on working when he's wondering where he's going to sleep at night. I do completely understand this, but yet my argument back to him is that you can't have a steady place to live without a job first.

I've saved up the money. I've got the money to move out of my parents house and get an apartment. I'm honestly just kind of waiting to make sure I keep my job at home depot after 90 days. I don't want my maternity leave to end and be stuck looking for a job when i have rent to pay. And honestly for as much as my boyfriend says he'll get a job if we get a place lately he's worried about who will hire him because he does not have a GED or diploma. So my question is, if I do keep my job and I do decide to move should I give him a chance and let him move with me? He's great with kids, he's been with me to all my doctors appointments and I know he'll make a really loving dad, I just don't know if he'll pull his weight financially. I never thought it was fair that the pressure was all on me when we lived in KY and I sure as hell do not plan to be a full-time worker and a full-time mom while he's full-time doing nothing! I'm just worried that if I do give him that chance and he doesn't step up, it's gonna be difficult to get him out of that apartment!

Please don't patronize me in your responses. I get told a million times to drop him and this and that. You are only learning a little bit about him, and it's obviously the negative side of our relationship. He is a great guy who has been hit with really hard times and doesn't really have any sort of family besides myself to help him out. I'm just looking for some advice from someone who's maybe been in a similar situation and thinks they have a valuable opinion to offer me.
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Happy Father's Day [21 Jun 2009|09:45pm]

[ mood | happy ]

For all the single mommies who, after days, weeks, months, and years of feeling like you can't do it anymore, find it in you to do it for one more day.

You are goddesses, all. 

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Moving with a baby [08 Jun 2009|10:17am]

I'm moving in a couple of weeks with my eight month old nearly-crawling son. I have a friend who is willing to babysit on the day of the move, but how will I get all of the packing done before then? Have any of you done this? How did you get everything done before the day of the move?

I currently live with my ex and I'm moving to my own place, but the amount of time that he's here and the amount that he helps out with the baby and around the apartment, I might as well be living on my own already. Does anyone have any tips or advice?

Thanks in advance.

cross-posted to single_mother
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